Chrissy’s Advice to Emily

LOVE AND HIP HOP!!! How many of you watched the episode where Chrissy gave Emily some advice on her relationship with Fabolous. Apparently there are rules for dating a man in the “Industry”.

“A man is gonna do what he’s gonna do but he has to be smart enough and loyal enough for you to never feel it, see it, or hear it. I’m not accepting or I’m not blind, I’m just realistic but you better NOT EVER EVER EVER EVER let me find out. You sign up for certain things and certain things come with the territory but RESPECT is … never something that is up for question, it is not a bargaining tool. You may have to sacrifice time because they’re out chasing checks but if your the first person they want to spend their time with after they cash them checks then it’s all worth it. When a man truly loves a woman he does what he has to do to keep her and to make her happy. You should feel secure and he should be loyal to your feelings, your relationship, and to your future. If he’s loyal to you he’s gonna make sure your protected on every front: your emotional situation, your financial situation; loyalty is a big umbrella. You need someone that when you smile they smile bigger and they work harder to be a better man for you.”

LET”S TALK!!

CHILDREN DESERVE BETTER!!!

Why do parents put their children in the middle of their SHIT!!!  If you’ve moved on and both have your own lives just work together to make sure your kids are okay and have healthy relationships with BOTH parents!!!!! THAT’S WHAT MATURE AND LOVING PARENTS WORK TO DO!!!!  A smart parent knows that when children have bad relationships with either of their parents it has a negative impact on the children’s lives.   GOD HAS BLESSED BOTH PARENTS with the children and everyone in their lives should support a healthy relationship with both parents.

Is Wendy Williams aka Darren Johnson?

Who? What? What you talkin’ bout Willis????????

Taking Care of You….

The 2011 holiday season is in full effect.  Many of us tend to spread ourselves way too thin……working, company parties, shopping, planning parties. We party and run ourselves starting from Thanksgiving to Christmas ending with New Year’s Eve AND New Year’s Day!!!  I know you want to enjoy yourself but you don’t want to feel burnt out.

Take some time out to take care of you!!!  I and many women I know really cannot resist a massage or 1hr. foot reflexology…..It really did wonders this evening. Please share what you to care of you!!!

 

 

Sex…….Can I Get Some????

O.k…….being married and all with two toddlers……how can I get back to the days of some good ‘ole sex.  It’s great when I get it…but the issue is WHEN can I get it? Having a family and career really  and I mean really gets in the way of so many things…Dont get me wrong I love my family and would not trade them in for the world…EVER!!! What I’m trying to say is ……How can we find that balance? I’m not looking for the perfect  balance because it does not exist……BUT the perfect balance for me?

Share your thoughts…………………….:)

Perimenopause the Monster!!!

Why didn’t someone warn me.  Hot flashes, mood swings, inconsistent periods.  I don’t know what to expect from day to day.  Sometimes things are wonderful and other times it seems like my body and mind have been taken over.  I can’t believe how drained I feel sometimes or how irritated I get over the most insignificant things.  It’s crazy!!! There is no preparation for this life altering change that we go through.  Then I find out that it could be years before the alien that took over my body leaves.  I sat in my Doctors office with tears streaming down my face, explaining all that I’ve been going through.  The solution medication that I don’t want to take.  I hope I figure out how to deal with this before it completely takes over my mind and body!!!   Damn,  this is only the prelude…

I JUST WANT SOME TIME FOR MYSELF!!! IS THAT TO F***ING MUCH TO ASK???!!

As women who work all day, bring home the bacon, and fry it up in da mf pan…Is it too much to ask for some down time. This is an issue many women deal with.  Working all day, commuting, coming home to children, cleaning, cooking, making time for a quick workout, feeding children, cleaning (again!!!!), bath time & bedtime. From 5:30-9:30 its f***ing too much!!  AND NO!!!! hubby is home (but today he is tired) But so I am…..but I keep on going like an idiot!!!!! Don’t get me wrong…..hubby puts in his fair share….not as much as I…..lol but who is counting?  I AM!!! ARUUUUGHHHH!

But why do many if not all women always pick up the slack?  How do you balance everyday family life AND maintain your sanity??

I keep dating the wrong men!! HELP!!!

I often sit and ponder why I havent found the right mate.  I cant speak for others but it seems that year after year i keep picking the wrong men.   There’s the man that is super sexy and knows it. He spends more time in the mirror than you and he acts as if you should be happy that you landed him because he’s such a prize.  Then there’s the LEACH the man that looks relatively good, is great in bed but has no job and no ambition.  Always screaming about “the system”. Sitting around playing video games while sucking your bank account dry.  The third type is the man that smothers you.  He’s always wants to be up under you. He’s not the best looking man and he’s not that good in bed. but he loves you and would do anything for you.  But you cant stand him.  Ugh!!!  You would think after all these years of serial dating that one would get it right.  I need help.

Can anybody identify with any of these men?  Perhaps you know of some other “Types” .  Please share your comments or stories.

To Stress or Not To Stress

Finally, I have a minute to myself after a busy day at work……I turn on the t.v. and to my chagrin the news is on. Before I could change the channel I was hooked on the segment…..HEART DISEASE.  Too many women (especially) young women have this disease. What is going on in our society? A number of my close friends (and I myself) have  some form of this disease. We are young ,healthy  and successful women!!!!   What is going on!!!!!  Ladies we must take care of self first!!

Knowledge is Power!!!!     www.heart.org      (The American Heart Association)

Describe some of the ways you RELAX, RELATE, RELEASE……….

Why did I get married????

I want a divorce